Saturday, February 09, 2008

Child-men should put down the controllers?

A look at the past isn't always a mirror-look at the future.

This seems to disturb Kay Hymowitz over at With much disdain, she tries to sorely point out that twenty-somethings aren't rushing into marriage and life.

A less irritating and more reasonable article on the concept is over at

Today's post-teens are not like the post-teens of yesteryear. Social pressure on marriage is down. Lifespans are longer. We have an overbearing information source known as the Internet. The combination of these things leave a different level of perception on everything in daily life.

If someone is interested in something such as marriage...they can easily read thousands of articles about in on the internet (and catch the negative statistics). If they want to see about how to invest, or buy a house...they can gather information quickly.

Worth quoting from the above link:

So if you are a reasonably well-educated person with a decent income, come from an intact family and are religious, and marry after age twentyfive without having a baby first, your chances of divorce are very low indeed.

Parents and their past mid-life crises should only be thankful. What Hymowitz is missing is that this "delay" is reducing regret later in life. Mid-life crises are heaps of regret from not experiencing enough freedom and making life-long decisions too early. We've seen divorces and what it does to everyone involved.

I personally see the "delay" as a positive way to evolve, under the premise that pre-middle-aged aren't really frothing video game zombies that don't leave the house. That is the picture that Hymowitz painted, and it is far from accurate. There's more life and more information available in today's world, and I see it as humans learning to take advantage of it. The middle-aged person will ready themselves as needed as opposed to conforming to the previous socially pressured and uneducated life-schedule.


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